In light of recent events I have found myself scrutinizing and questioning and more than likely over analysing.. every single thing.
One thing that I keep coming back to is the whole guy / gal friendship business.
Is it possibly to be platonic friends with the opposite sex? … Real true friends with NO sexual undertones at all?
I honestly think it IS possible, and I have recently been called naive because of my thoughts.. and maybe I am.
But I would like to think that it’s possible, else well, I’m in a world of trouble because I feel I have so many guy friends.. and I know from my side there is 100% nothing underlying there.. maybe there is quips and flirts with some, but I still feel that this is OK and there is nothing more to it.
Am I really living in a naive little bubble over here?
I know there are definitely situations where there is no chance of a guy / gal relationship being platonic, I know there is many of those, for one reason or another our carnal desires cannot keep themselves in check, but on a whole I fell that it’s very possible to be JUST MATES.
I’ve always found myself having a lot more guy friends than girl friends, and when you first meet me this wouldn’t be your first assumption. I am a girly girl, serial lover of beautiful clothes and shoes and make-up and I will never be anything different, but, I just find relationships with guys so much easier – less bullshit, less pretence and on the whole just less MESS. Only in the past few years have I found myself with some really good close girlfriends, some like minded gals who don’t actually DO drama and all the mess that comes along with so many gal to gal friendships.
Since I now find myself back in the saddle of the singledom horse, I guess I should just be a bit more careful..Maybe I shouldn’t be so naive into thinking that we can all just be friends… I just really want to though. It is really just so much simpler that way.
How do you feel on the whole platonic non animal instincts guy / gal friendship business? Am I being completely blind sided?
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