Something I struggled with for a long time, in fact, for as long as I remember, was having people dislike me. I know this is something MANY people would, have and will struggle with. But it is one thing that I have been thinking about a lot lately.
I used to find it so crippling when someone didn’t like me, almost like I would lose my mind for a while and really try and piece together the moment when they decided this or realised this and think, well what can I do to change this to make them like me again… silly right? So very very silly.
What I realised and came to terms with is that not everyone IS going to like me; I am not going to be every ones cup o’ tea… Just as much as some of them are not on my favourite peoples list. We are all so very different, in so many ways, there is always going to be someone that doesn’t like you and then of course, there is definitely going to be someone you don’t like.
C’est la vie.
I don’t think it should be a knock on our self esteem, nor is it really any reflection of your character. Unless you are a nasty piece of work yourself, which you would know. And probably should realise that unless you stop being said ‘piece of nasty work’ you won’t be making ANYONES favourite persons list!..
… It’s just nature.
Not every animal in the jungle gets along, and that is just peaches for them (and also, for me, as I can’t imagine a group huddle with Lions and Zebras, that shiz is just odd), I bet they don’t waste another thought on it….as we should not.
If we worry so much about others liking us we are going to be sacrificing our true selves, and that will never work out. We will be undermining and questioning our own person, the one that we have worked hard to build up, and no one is worth sacrificing that, or doubting that for, no siree!
As long as we are waking up every morning and sticking on your metaphorical “THIS IS ME, LIKE IT OR NOT” cap, then that is all that needs to happen.
If we are staying true to ourselves, true to our mind, true to our soul, that is enough.
People will either like us for who we are, or they won’t, it’s that simple. And it’s OK.
Imagine if everyone liked you and everyone wanted to spend time with you and talk to you and dance with you… HOW UTTERLY EXHAUSTING! Ain’t nobody got time for that!
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