This weekend I attended a meditation / teaching day course in the city of Melbourne, the title of the course was as above, Love and Attachment. The centre which the course was run through is one that I have been looking into for the past few months. I’d just never taken the actual step to booking and going. What held me back? What usually holds me back…me of course.,
With a few friends by my side it was much less daunting as I really had no idea of what would be going on. Well, let me tell you, I had nothing to worry about what so ever.
There were two sessions of teaching and two sessions of meditation and breaks and lunch in between.
The teachings were held by Gen Kelsang Dornying a Buddhist Monk..I would hazard a guess that he is about 30 and he is from somewhere in the UK. I’ve just tried to google him and there isn’t much out there to be honest. Which is fair enough, he doesn’t need his own Wikipedia page or anything.. anyway….
This guy, Gen Kelsang Dornying, he was just so so inspiring. He just oozed warmth and compassion and wisdom in his words, he had you holding onto every last one.
We had two mediation sessions run by Shell, and they would have been even more beneficial for me, if I hadn’t of just kept FALLING ASLEEP… Think I pulled a muscle in my neck I jolted so hard at one stage. Not the best idea when I’ve been having less than amazing sleep lately. Haha. But, the quiet time inside me was still much needed, and I did get into the meditation, just not for as long as I would have loved.
Gen Kelsang spoke to us about the separation between Love and Attachment and how we as humans don’t generally know how to tell the difference, or if we do, to not HAVE attachments.
Attachments lead to need, need leads to expectations and all of this, if we don’t get it when we want it, leads to suffering.
GK gave a really good analogy which made this make bleeding sense.
‘A woman loves her husband, so very very much, but she gets upset when he goes to work or upset/angry when he has to go away for work (not for any other reason that she NEEDS him). This is because she has an attachment and the love + attachment is creating this negativity for her, as she will spend time and energy being upset. If she just loved him unconditionally and knew that there was no way around the fact he had to go work and didn’t have the attachment that made her upset, she would be ok’
We are all attached to someone, be it partner, or friend, if we still LOVED but removed the attachment we would really be living happier lives.
He didn’t say it would be easy and for some it’s possibly not even achievable, but the thought of wanting no attachment, that’s a start.
He also touched on having no expectations of people, just loving completely and doing things because you want to do them, because you love people. Not doing things because you want the kudos or you want something in return, because if we always do things just for the return of gratification, we are always going to be disappointed.
Makes sense right ?
It’s so simple, yet so hard to grasp, because we just live our lives, doing what we’ve always done and it’s really hard to just train yourself to not fall into those little (sometimes big) traps.
There were just so many words that hit home and resonated and made me realise how much we are in control of everything around us, starting within.
He made some pretty bold statements which I don’t think any of us were expecting. He said. We are just VISITING, we are just PASSING THROUGH, we are all going to DIE. So therefore attachments are fruitless.
I think there were a few gasps here and there, but hey, it’s the truth isn’t it. None of us have an immortal pass, not that I know of.. Except Edward.. Team Edward always.
No seriously though, his point was that, why wouldn’t we just love unconditionally and not have any attachments, because, in the end, there is just us. We are on this spiritual journey; we will be alone in the end. Whether we like that or not, its true.
So love, and love strongly and truly and passionately and just try to let go of some of those attachments that are just so negatively entwined within all of us.
You cannot control those around you, you can control yourself and your thoughts and feelings and your love and if you can just stay true to that and true to yourself, then you are half way there.
Sorry if this is a bit all over the place, there is just so much whizzing around my brain. I was so inspired by his words and I am so happy I can share a little of this with you.
We covered so much more, but those are just a few of the bigger things that I feel were extremely powerful.
If anyone is interested in having more of a chat to me about it or an email, please do that.
I am really passionate about all of the above, and it may have been my first group session but I have been reading about Buddhism and these sessions for quite some time.
I will be returning to more courses and possibly a weekend session as well, which will be so amazing, as they have a temple up in the mountains where the weekend sessions are held. Tranquility, nature, peace, quiet… YES PLEASE!!!
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